Sobriety in Love is an 8-week program designed to help you break free from love addiction.
Release your dependence on relationships and realize your worth by honoring the most important relationship of all—your relationship with YOU.
Do any of these scenarios feel familiar:
You’re newly sober, and you don’t know if you should be dating right now, or how to handle it without relapsing. You’re terrified of entering a new relationship.
You throw yourself into new relationships, clinging to the other person as though your very happiness depends on it. It feels good at first, but it quickly becomes problematic. Yet you keep doing it.
You’re afraid to divulge too-much-too-soon about your drinking history to potential suitors for fear of being judged, and so you dread the awkwardness of declining to drink on your first few dates.
You’ve stopped drinking but your partner still drinks and it’s getting in the way of your recovery and impacting your relationship.
You wonder if you can get sober when your whole relationship is centered around drinking. You’re not even sure if you can have a relationship if alcohol isn’t involved.
Every relationship you enter becomes toxic. You fear that you’ll never be able to have a “normal” relationship, so you have all but given up on the idea of finding real love.
Relationships feel like a struggle, but you’re not even entirely sure why.
You keep telling yourself, “This is not the life I’m supposed to be living.”
Veronica Valli Psychotherapist. Author.
Sherry Gaba, LCSW Psychotherapist. Life Coach.
Led by experts Veronica Valli and Sherry Gaba, LCSW. Sobriety in Love is delivered in live weekly classes, and includes access to a private online community where you can get support, insights, and accountability from instructors and others enrolled in the program.
What to Expect
After the course, you’ll have the confidence to identify your needs, be able to create boundaries that uphold your values, and understand your inherent worth. You’ll also:
Stop settling for less than you deserve.
Learn why you pick the wrong partners.
Understand that you can’t fix other people, only yourself.
Focus on prioritizing your relationship with yourself so that the other relationships in your life can thrive.
Discover how your childhood created the patterns for your romantic relationships, and how to undo those patterns.
Realize how healthy boundaries can transform your relationships.
Recognize what it means to have a healthy relationship.
Learn how to create an authentic partnership.
Change your abandonment story.
What You Get
Live classes
Week 1 – September 2: Relationships and Love Addiction: Introduction
Week 2 – September 9: The Real Reason We Settle for Less
Week 3 – September 16: Why Your Inner Child Chooses All Your Partners (and How to Change That)
Week 4 – September 23: How to Create Healthy Boundaries
Integration week: no class / catch up / integrate
Week 5 – October 7: Discover Your Attachment Pattern and Why Love Hurts
Week 6 – October 14: How to Stop Feeling Abandoned
Week 7 – October 21: How to Finally Create an Authentic Partnership
Week 8 – October 28: What to Do Next?
Private online community.
Connect with others who are also trying to navigate relationships in sobriety. Lean on each other for support. Get expert guidance all along the way. You’re not the only one going through this. We’re in it together.
Practical Application
Download handouts that help you assimilate what you’re learning so that you can put what you learn to use in your life right away. You’re not only here to learn. You’re here to transform your relationships.
Qualified instructors
Veronica Valli and Sherry Gaba have decades of experience guiding people through difficult relationships in sobriety. Both are psychotherapists and alcohol recovery experts, with Veronica being sober and Sherry a codependent and love addict in recovery. Together, there is no topic they can't cover in this realm.
We protect your privacy.
If confidentiality in an online program is a concern to you, we recently moved the program to the perfect online home that allows you to create an anonymous profile so that you can feel 100% comfortable being YOU.
Meet the Experts
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Veronica Valli
Sherry Gaba, LCSW
Veronica Valli
Veronica Valli is changing the narrative on sobriety. With 20 years in recovery and 17 years’ experience as a recovery coach and psychotherapist, she understands that there is no ONE path to recovery.
Author of books Why You Drink and How to Stop, Get Sober Get Free, and upcoming Soberful (to be published by Sounds True), and co-host of the Soberful Podcast, Veronica has helped thousands of women not only recover from alcohol but also transform their lives.
Veronica teaches that alcohol is not the problem—it’s only a symptom of a deeper underlying problem. She helps women dig deep, embrace change, and become who they are meant to be. “I help you reveal yourself to yourself,” she says.
Veronica works with women all over the world through her successful and innovative online recovery programs. Now based in the US after relocating from the UK, she is married and lives on Long Island, NY with her husband and two sons.
“Working with Veronica changed my life. She helped me find the tools to begin to heal and create a picture of a full beautiful life in sobriety. On one of our first calls, she told me that my life could be in full colour. I didn't believe her but today I can honestly say that sobriety is beyond anything I could have ever imagined when I reached out to her on that dark January day. Veronica took my hand, stood by my side, and rooted me on when I didn't know what to do next and thought I had to go at it alone."
—A “sober and free woman” (anonymous)
Sherry Gaba, LCSW
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and life coach who helps people cope with codependency, addictions, trauma, and mental health issues. Sherry is a single mother and once her daughter was old enough, Sherry returned to school to receive her Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California.
As a leading expert on addiction and recovery, Sherry’s TV appearances include: Vh1’s Celebrity Rehab, CNN, Inside Edition, the Robert Irvine Show and Access Live, E! News, among others. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s World, the LA Times, Thrive Global, the New York Post, Marriage.com, Zoosk, Psychology Today, and other leading publications. She has also been a guest on many SiriusXM radio shows.
Sherry is the author of the best-selling book, Infinite Recovery, which addresses recovery from addiction and alcoholism through the lens of the law of attraction. Sherry is also the author of a new book Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love, in which Sherry addresses relationship addiction and codependency, and is a contributing writer to the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Tough Times Tough People. You can take her codependency quiz here or join her codependents Facebook group here.
Sherry maintains a private practice in Westlake Village, CA, and online, and is Editor of Recovery Today Magazine, and founder of Wake-Up Recovery, an online group coaching program that applies the principles of positive psychology, law of attraction, and mindfulness for codependents and addicts in recovery.
“In our work on VH1’s Celebrity Rehab, I’ve seen the amazing connections Sherry makes with those who are so terribly disconnected from others and themselves. But you don’t have to be a celebrity in recovery to benefit from her years of training and experience. Sherry provides a roadmap for rising above negativity and thinking of yourself, your life, and your purpose in new and inspiring ways.”
—Drew Pinsky, M.D.
What does a fulfilling relationship look like to you?
A healthy relationship might feel a world away from you right now, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Here’s what finding real love might look like for you:
- It starts with loving yourself. Every. Damn. Day.
- It means confidently setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them.
- It’s changing your patterns and breaking the cycle.
- It’s when you turn inward to find the answers (and the love) rather than seeking them in someone else.
- It’s being seen and understood, without always needing approval.
- It’s working through challenges together, rather than against each other.
- It’s honoring each other’s feelings (and also our own).
- It’s finding mutual interests and creating space for each other to also explore individual interests.
- It’s when each can be vulnerable without judgment, and there is an effort to understand the other.
- It’s accepting ourselves even when it feels hard. Especially when it feels hard.
- It’s feeling grounded in mutual respect and support.
- It’s when each person feels safe with the other.
- It’s discernment. Empowerment. Freedom.
8 Weeks of Growth
Over the course of 8 weeks (with one week of integration and catch-up halfway through), we’ll cover these topics:
Relationships and Love Addiction Intro
Uncover the patterns in your relationships for what they really are, and learn how you can change those patterns despite years of toxicity.
Why Your Inner Child Chooses All Your Partners (and How to Change That)
Reveal why you keep picking the “wrong” partners, and re-establish your relationship with yourself. Learn how to nurture those parts of you that are yearning for acceptance by starting with YOU.
How to Finally Create an Authentic Partnership
Learn what it means to be in an authentic partnership that honours you as much as the other person. Break your cycle. Step into a new way of relating.
The Real Reason We Settle for Less
Understand what’s driving your unhealthy pattern of settling and realign your goals with your true values.
Discover Your Attachment Pattern and Why Love Hurts
Delve into your personal attachment pattern so that you can finally communicate your needs and optimize your behaviours in order to feel truly fulfilled.
How to Stop Feeling Abandoned
Get crystal clear about who is your real source of love, and uncover the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.
How to Create Healthy Boundaries
Learn how to implement healthy boundaries with confidence.
How to Stop Feeling Abandoned
Get crystal clear about who is your real source of love, and uncover the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.
What to Do Next?
Prepare to take all that you have learned and practised and make it an integral part of who you are.
Love notes from our members
“Never give up for me now means never giving up on myself and my desire for authenticity! In my last relationship, I spent most of it giving up on myself and spent most of my energy saving him. As the years went on and we both were intermittently being rewarded during the ups then dopamine crashes, the Trauma Bond was solidifying!! I needed support to begin the journey of breaking the bond. I needed support in the initial fear of letting go and feeling raw abandonment, then support around the silence, no longer having him as my distraction. Support around no longer having the addictive hits of the highs and lows. Thank you Sherry for walking alongside me.
When I was feeling stuck and having thoughts about letting him “back in”, I would jump into the modules, listen to meditations, and reach out for strength. I can say now, I still have thoughts of what “out there” can make me feel complete….then I remember – Nothing!!! I turn inward to see me and hear me say, ‘Hey hello, I’m here for you sister.’ Thank you.”
—Sheila M
“I have so many take-aways from working with Veronica, she has taught me ‘It’s not personal’ – that was a real light bulb moment for me. How to put boundaries in place which I had never learned and it’s all about mindset. She told me at the start, if you show up and do the work it will be life-changing. Never have I heard truer words. I worked with Veronica hoping for help in my sobriety, what I hadn’t expected was to feel and see a shift in my whole life. I feel lighter, like a weight I have been carrying my entire adult life has been lifted. I feel so excited and passionate about my future, I can finally start living the life I deserve. I have benefited more than I could ever have imagined – thank you.”
—Dee
“Veronica is an incredibly strong support system for her clients. Our sessions went so much deeper than I could have anticipated, which was the catalyst for such massive change. Once alcohol was removed from the equation, Veronica challenged me to explore who I really am…which was tough at first. She was there to walk me through it. She gave me new tools to improve my marriage and parenting, methods to get in control of my emotions, and helped me heal an emotional wound I’d been carrying around for five years. I feel a sense of unlimited potential because of my time with Veronica."
—Lauren W Age 37
The Secret to Real Love
You will quickly learn inside Sobriety in Love that real love starts with YOU. We simply cannot be fulfilled in a loving relationship when we haven’t properly cared for our own hearts. That’s where we start in this program.
A lot of healing happens when you take the time to turn inward to really honor your inherent value and accept yourself, flaws and all. It’s deep inner work and can have a profound effect on how you enter into relationships in your life.
From there, we branch out into the relationships in our lives and the ones we hope to achieve, all from a grounded foundation in self-worth. It changes everything.