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Veronica Valli Author. Expert. Sober.
Soberful Life is a purposeful online sobriety program and private community where you get online access to the experts, resources, knowledge, connections, and support your need to stop drinking and live an amazing sober life.
Does this sound familiar?
You’ve stopped drinking—or you want to—because you can’t stand who you become when you drink. Or because you can’t stand who you become (or how you feel) the day after you drink.
You are starting to see through alcohol’s lies. And you’re eager for a better sober life.
- Shaky in your sobriety?
- Sober but you want more?
- Sober but feeling stuck and uninspired?
- Tired of going back to day 1 again and again?
- Ready to deepen your recovery but you don’t know how?
- Trying to cope with life’s difficulties but not very successfully?
Soberful Life is an ongoing membership program run by qualified addiction professionals.
We show up for each other day after day, and we continue to add workshops, expert masterclasses, coaching sessions, support meetings, and more every month.
Sign up for the year or simply month to month.
What does a thriving sober life look like for you?
There are many paths to sobriety. And many ways to live a thriving soberful life. Here is what a soberful life might look like for you:
Getting sober—and staying sober.
Finding sober friends who understand you.
Managing your emotions more effectively.
Doing work that fulfills you—and excelling at it.
Feeling healthier than you have in a long time.
Getting free of the fixed mindset you picked up in childhood.
Developing habits and thought patterns that help you to grow.
Waking up every morning clear-headed and ready to take on your day.
Managing crisis successfully without falling apart or going back to drinking.
Here’s what you can expect when you join Soberful Life:
For a fraction of the cost of a night out on the town every month, you get access to workshops, expert masterclasses, online recovery groups, and ongoing support from renowned alcohol recovery experts Veronica Valli and Chip Somers—and a community of like-minded people just like you who are dedicated to living a sober life.
We do in-depth workshops each month, often adding BONUS workshops as we go.
We hold almost daily support meetings every week where we all "meet up" online.
We invite an expert to do a masterclass every month.
We hold a weekly podcast discussion session where we discuss the latest Soberful Podcast episode and answer any questions that come up.
Our intuitive eating coach, registered nurse Tiffany Thoen gives an intuitive eating coaching session every month.
Our recovery coach, family nurse practitioner Mimi Devine-Touhe gives a peri/menopause coaching and support session with Veronica every month.
You get access to dozens of archived workshops and training videos on all sorts of topics to help you successfully manage the many issues that you’ll encounter throughout your recovery.
PLUS—you’ll take this journey alongside like-minded people in various stages of recovery, sharing their stories, offering their insights, and asking for support when they need it, just like you.
If confidentiality in an online program is a concern to you, you can create an anonymous profile so that you can feel 100% comfortable being YOU.
And you don’t have to join a Facebook group to participate.
You get all this for the price of a couple bottles of wine every month. And you can cancel anytime.
Sign up for the year or simply month to month.
We protect your privacy.
If confidentiality in an online program is a concern to you, you can create an anonymous profile so that you can feel 100% comfortable being YOU.
Unlock instant access to these topics and tools:
Learn how to use boundaries to keep you safe and sober.
Relationships in Recovery
Discover how to improve your relationships and to navigate the difficult ones.
Manage difficult emotions in sobriety and understand why they arise.
Great Big Sober Secret
Never feel like you are ‘missing out’ because you are sober.
Know how to see it coming and take the right steps to avoid it.
Learn how to repair relationships that alcohol has damaged.
Discover what to do when you become addicted to other things apart from alcohol.
Vulnerability and Trust
Heal and grow by doing the internal work.
Monthly coaching with Tiffany Thoen, RN, our intuitive eating coach.
Discover how shame sabotages sobriety and learn how to overcome insecurities.
Monthly coaching with Mimi Devine-Touhey, MSN, FNP, CPC, SRCD, our peri/menopause recovery coach.
Learn how to replace poor self-esteem with healthy self-esteem to improve your recovery.
Plus so much more!
The Soberful Life program is based on the 5 Pillars of Sustainable Sobriety, designed to help you STAY sober by achieving emotional sobriety. The 5 pillars are:
Learn how to be deliberate in moving your body as a powerful sobriety tool. Then, become conscious of the movement of your life’s direction.
Work to create a meaningful connection with at least one person who you know in real life, all while nurturing a real connection to yourself.
Discover the secret of balance, and how it remains at the center of any difficulty you encounter. Learn how to ‘check your balance’ on a regular basis, and adjust as needed.
Your emotions are data. Avoiding emotions is the number one reason people relapse. Learn how to process emotions so that you’re not learning the same lessons again and again.
We are either growing or dying. Growth is uncomfortable, by design. Learn to use it as an opportunity to be a better version of yourself and create a life you love.
Breaking Through Fear
In this workshop, you will learn how fear sabotages you and holds you back. You’ll discover how to reframe feelings, release fear, and grow into the person you were always meant to be.
Surviving Your Family During the Holiday Season
This workshop will help prepare you to get through the holidays sober, despite family members who seem determined to make things hard for you at every turn.
Elevating Your Emotional Intelligence
In this workshop, learn how you can elevate your emotional intelligence in your own life so that you are no longer at the mercy of your emotions (and the behaviors they lead to).
Creativity in Sobriety
In this workshop, you will learn the 4 simple tools needed to rescue your creativity from doubt, fear, and self-consciousness. You will discover how expressing yourself in your own way can help your sobriety.
Addiction, Mental Illness, and Grief
Debra is an author and therapist, specializing in addiction, mental illness, and grief. We will be discussing her book, Am I Going to be Okay? and her insights into the 'disease to please'.
Tune in for Brandy Caulfield and Veronica's conversation on how to gain clarity around your finances. Brandy will be diving into what she did to get out of debt and how to be free of financial worries.
Mary Shores is a multi-million-dollar CEO, best-selling author, and sought-after speaker. She has over 20 years of experience, and her natural storytelling ability and research-backed lessons motivate and inspire.
Sex Addiction & Recovery
Veronica interviews Amy Smith from WorthyRecovery, discussing sex addiction and recovery. Her podcasts on Podbean have been instrumental in helping Veronica herself expand in her recovery.
Addicted to the Monkey Mind
JF Benoist is the author of Addicted to the Monkey Mind. His revolutionary new book lays out how our negative self-talk and limiting beliefs shape our experience.
Health in Early Recovery
Beth and Tamara discuss health in early recovery, foods, vitamins, and activities that will help get your mind and bosy back on the fast track to recovery from alcohol.
Mindfulness in Sobriety
Veronica and Jessica Arbour discuss mindfulness-based tools to help you improve your relationship with yourself and others. She has helped many improve their personal relationships.
Intuitive Eating (Monthly)
Every month, coach Tiffany North, RN hosts a coaching workshop where she teaches you about intuitive eating, how it works, and how to make changes. Opportunity for coaching on your individual challenges!
So Much More
Compliments From Our Members
“The Soberful Life group has re-energized my recovery and given me new tools and a new perspective! I can’t believe how much I’ve gotten out of only a month of membership. Having Veronica to guide us and share her expertise, while also bringing in amazing experts to help with other topics, all in a space where I feel safe to share with other women dedicated to their recovery… is priceless.”
— Jane C.
“I don’t always have the time in my schedule to go to a meeting, or to go to therapy, but at any moment of the day, I can come on to Soberful Life for Veronica’s [and Chip’s] wisdom and talk with people who are sharing my experiences. It’s like the best 12-step meeting AND therapy TOGETHER anytime I want it.”
“The key to staying sober is here. I’ve tried so many times to stop and until I found these people, this connection, my tribe, I couldn’t
do it. Not alone. I feel seen and heard and understood. These people are my people and I wouldn’t want to do this without them. Come to the meetings, you will find peace and acceptance and understanding like you never thought possible. This is hard work but we can do hard things.”
“I joined Soberful Life with a buzzing head, where I did not know how to move forward. I had been sober 16 months at that point. The workshops, Q&As, and comments have helped me to develop a path forward, by looking at emotions, fears, actions, and goals.
Small steps at the moment as it can be uncomfortable, but with the guidance and support on here, I feel I am moving forward now and have been able to ease the buzzing head. I feel empowered with the tools, advice, and insights Veronica and Chip share.”
“Today marks 3 years of sobriety for me! I found the Soberful Life group about a year ago and it has helped me grow so much into a truly soberFUL life. At the time I was happy to be sober but knew there was more I was missing, and I found it in this group.
All of the workshops, shared experiences, and encouragement has helped me stretch and grow into a fuller, brighter sober life. I’ve connected with people and I really appreciate the recovery groups and support and feedback I’ve received.
I can’t believe the amount of value we receive, it’s like having a sober coach to walk us through all of these different topics and challenges that you don’t think about but we all experience.
I’m so grateful to have found Soberful Life during my own sober journey!”
— Jane, 43
“I’m in my third year of sobriety and Soberful Life has been critical to my journey.
A huge amount of content: workshops, Q&As, regular guest speakers, and the ability to interact live with Veronica and Chip in online group recovery meetings.
It’s absolutely incredible value. A month’s membership for what I used to spend on a bottle of wine.
Veronica and Chip understand the struggle because they’ve been there. They are both in long-term recovery and both extremely experienced as they have worked for decades in the recovery field.
Long(er) term sobriety is about so much more than quitting drinking, it’s a complete mindset change, and Veronica and Chip will (gently) get you there.”
— Clare, 49
"Celebrating 8 Months Today!
The early days of sobriety were easier than I expected. But then I realized being sober was about a lot more than "not drinking."
I am so glad to be here, taking the next step in my recovery. Working on processing emotions, letting go of codependency, and balance. I am looking forward to learning to cope with all of the things that kept me drinking for 10 years. The workshops this week have been great!
I am heading on to 9 months and looking forward to accomplishing my first year."
— Soberful Life member
"Yesterday, I hit one year sober! I honestly can hardly believe I have made it this far. My daughters are so proud of me, which makes it all worthwhile.
I have been struggling for the past few days, wondering why I am doing this, wishing I didn't have to do this, missing drinking, etc. But I now realise that I get these 'down times' occasionally, and I just have to wait for it to pass. And it does, always! I am now feeling more hopeful and generally happier.
This [group] has been a wonderful support."
— Soberful Life member
“If it’s possible to truly “enjoy” a site such as this—this is the one! I have felt welcomed from day one. I don’t visit as often as I should, but when I do, I feel welcomed, not judged, and like I fit in.”
“I am so impressed with you and your program. Being a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 40 years (mostly retired now...), I have seen so much in the recovery field and the treatment field. As a subject matter expert, I have been in your (and Chip's, and Tamara's) shoes, providing lectures and workshops and the such. AND, on the other side of the tracks, I also have been a functional drug abuser...then later alcohol abuser for most of my life.
Veronica, I mean it when I say your program is second to none. You are a brilliant and compassionate leader and healer. Your program is tight and well thought out. And your treatment style is so comfortable yet very serious, insightful and top-of-the-line professional. You have tremendous healing colleagues in Chip, Tamara, and Louise. I admire your energy and passion for what you do.
I wanted to just step back and let you know how safe and confident I feel in your program. It is nice for me to now take my psychotherapeutic eyepieces off and let someone I trust take care of me. I trust you, Chip, Tamara & Louise...and all of the Soberful members who take their risks every day under the safe umbrella of your Soberful program.
—Ed Retired therapist
So, what is the secret to lasting sobriety?
Getting sober is an inside job. And while we won’t tell you that it’s easy, we WILL tell you that it’s so much easier than continuing to drink.
You don’t actually have a drinking problem. Instead, you have been using drinking to help “solve” problems that drinking only worsens.
And to get to the bottom of all of this, you have to show up, look inside, and get to the heart of what’s really going on.
That’s what it takes. And the good news is that everything you need to get sober is on the inside.
You have what it takes.
Soberful Life is for you IF:
You are having trouble staying sober.
You feel like you can’t get past the struggle of early sobriety (even if you’ve been sober for a while).
You haven’t reached that amazing sober life everyone keeps talking about even though you have stopped drinking.
You are bored with your sobriety.
You’re struggling in relationships.
You’re having trouble finding or connecting with new friends.
Your emotions are all over the place.
You feel stuck, overwhelmed, afraid, and want support.
You have substituted one addiction for another (food, exercise, sex, etc.).
Your sobriety is going pretty well but you feel like something is missing.
Sign up for the year or simply month to month
Meet the Expert Team
Veronica Valli is a psychotherapist, recovery coach, level two EFT (emotional freedom technique) practitioner, MASC life coach, author of books Why You Drink and How to Stop and Get Sober Get Free, and cohost of the Soberful Podcast. She has been in recovery for 20 years and has been working as a recovery coach and therapist for 18 years.
Veronica passionately believes that anyone can recover from alcohol if they are given the right tools and support. She has personally helped thousands of women transform their lives. Veronica believes that alcohol is only a symptom of a deeper underlying problem, and that to recover, thrive and become the women we are truly meant to be, we need to embrace the process of change.
Now based in the USA, she works with women all over the world through her online programs, Facebook groups and one-on-one or group coaching. Veronica is married and lives on Long Island with her husband and two sons.
Chip Somers is a successful psychotherapist with a practice in Harley Street, London. He has run several rehabilitation centers throughout his 34-year career. He deals with people who have tried to sort themselves out but need that extra bit of input to help them get better and get through the mess they are in.
Chip has been instrumental in many people's recovery from alcohol and drug abuse. In particular, Russell Brand dedicates a whole chapter to Chip in his new book Mentors: How to Help and Be Helped. Chip is married with two adult children. He has been continuously sober since 1985.
Tamara Kirby has helped hundreds of people recover from active addiction as a licensed addictions counselor and international certified drug and alcohol counselor. She uses her own recovery as well as her clinical skills and education to lead the path in stigma reduction, raise community awareness, and educate businesses. She has opened and maintained the development of two addiction treatment programs in the past five years. Currently she is a treatment consultant with the Indiana Center for Recovery and Haven Behavioral Health as well as the community manager at Soberful Life.
Louise O’Brien joined Soberful in 2018 looking to make sobriety stick after many years of trying to moderate. After signing up for one of Veronica and Chip’s 4-month intensive programs, she found sobriety, and it has changed her life and her career.
Louise is certified to work in an Alcohol and Other Drugs Assessment Role. She is the Operations Manager for Soberful Life and co-hosts the sober support meetings alongside the qualified therapists. Louise offers support and relatable advice from her own recovery journey to bring the true connection to the growing Soberful Life community.
Tiffany North is an intuitive eating coach and a registered nurse who healed her own relationship with food and then went on to coach clients to do the same. Intuitive eating is not a diet. It is a way of relating to food and your body that supports you and brings back joy, balance, and satisfaction with food. Tiffany leads monthly intuitive coaching sessions inside Soberful Life.
Yulonda Ross is a Licensed and Certified Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselor (LADAC and ICADC), and is in the process of becoming an empowerment life coach.
With a Master’s degree in addiction studies and a Bachelor’s degree in psychology, she has been in the field of substance abuse for 14 years. Yulonda was called to the field because she lived with someone who had an addiction and has family members still struggling with alcoholism and other addictions.
Leeny Barrett joined Soberful Life two years ago after hearing Veronica speak at a Women for Sobriety conference. She has been in recovery for three years. After attending Veronica’s Sober Mindset training in February 2020, Leeny answered a call to growth and resigned from her position as a program manager in the electronics industry where she has spent most of her career.
Leeny has been a moderator for the Soberful Facebook group and recently took on a new role as Soberful’s Project Manager. Leeny and her husband of 27 years reside on Long Island, NY with their dog and two cats. Leeny enjoys winter getaways in the Pocono Mountains of PA and summers on the Jersey Shore.
Jan Bowen joined Soberful Life at its inception. After balancing raising three children, running a non-profit animal rescue group, and advocating for special needs kids, she is now switching gears to bring her skills to the recovery community.
She is a moderator for the Soberful Facebook group, co-runs the book club inside Soberful Life, and is currently enrolled to be a certified recovery coach. Her favorite pastime is meandering with her dogs in the White Mountains of New Hampshire. She’s an avid skier, photographer, gardener, reader, and cook—all of which is enjoyed so much more alcohol-free.
Mimi Devine-Touhey, MSN, FNP, CPC, SRCD is a certified professional life and recovery coach who is passionate about helping women rediscover their life path and recover from substance use disorders and other addictive behaviors.
She is knowledgeable about all avenues of recovery and believes that every individual needs to put together their own patchwork of support. She leverages her 25 years as a family nurse practitioner, supporting and counseling her patients with substance use disorders, food challenges, and chronic disease management.
She has a particular interest in treating women during perimenopause and menopause and spent six years focusing on and treating women with sexual health concerns. She is an EFT (emotional freedom technique) practitioner. Mimi has been in recovery from alcohol addiction for 15 years.
Frequently Asked Questions
If you’re here, you know that what you have been doing until now isn’t working. You need the right tools and support to make it happen. When you have a solid plan combined with the knowledge of what to expect, then you have a much better chance of success. We use our experience to give you the knowledge and skills—it’s up to you to do the work.
That’s okay. Some people in Soberful Life have been sober for years, some for less, and some are working to get sober. We offer support to people at all stages of alcohol recovery.
The truth is, we all have struggles. Even if alcohol is no longer a thought in your mind, it’s likely that there are areas in your life that you still struggle with. The real work in alcohol recovery has to do with all the underlying issues we face on a day-to-day basis. If you think that your life could be even better with some new skills and a fresh perspective, then Soberful Life will not disappoint. You can always give it a try for a month or two.
Yes, as soon as you pay, you gain access to the full program.
Soberful Life is a monthly online recovery program. As long as you maintain your subscription, you will have access.
Yes, you can.
We don't necessarily adhere to or advise against these steps. We leave the choice of support up to you. We have seen people do very well in AA, but we have seen people get support other ways as well.
We have moved the Soberful Life Program to a new platform that allows us to create posts just like on Facebook, as well as to host all the videos and training materials in one place.
Soberful Life is a robust, interactive program that allows you to participate as little or as much as you like. If you prefer to keep your communications confidential, you can create an anonymous profile.
If you are drinking heavily, you are at risk of experiencing withdrawal symptoms that need to be monitored by a healthcare professional. We are not licensed health professionals. The information in this program is for educational purposes only and is not meant to replace any advice from a healthcare professional. Please consult your health care professional before you plan to give up alcohol.